What Husbands Wish They Could Say

We asked husbands what they really want to tell their wives, and we want to share their responses. However, we first want to warn you that what they said might be hard to hear. We encourage you to first humble your heart and ask God to use these statements to minister to your heart and convict you of any ways in which you can reflect God’s love in your marriage. 


This is what husbands wish they could tell their wives:


I don’t want a mother, yet I don’t want her to avoid me. I guess it’s complicated.


It’s not that I need a lot of space. But if I ask for it, don’t take it as a personal attack.


I wish we felt more like a team.


That I was trying my best and you just couldn’t see it.


I wish you knew that I’m doing everything that I can and I wish the quality of your life was better. 


I wish I could give you everything you want.


I wish you knew I’m trying my best. 


I wish you knew our family is my priority, even when I’m unable to be home.


I don’t want to feel bad for working hard.


I wish you could hear how you talk to me.


I’d like you to not be so hard on me.


Father God, humble us. Lord, break our hearts for how we’ve treated our husbands. Help us take first steps of love and grace toward our husbands, displaying Your great love within our marriages. Lord help us forgive, help us respectfully communicate hurt, help us choose love when walls are easy to build. Help us infuse laughter and fun into our homes. Give us a spirit of ease instead of control and offense. Lord, give our husbands hearts after you. Increase our husband’s faith and need for you, Lord. We pray this together, amen.

Amanda Davison is the wife to a Minnesota farmer, mother of three, and President of the nonprofit, A Wife Like Me. She is the co-author of Dear Wife: 10 Minute Invitations to Practice Connection with Your Husband, speaker, and serves on staff at her local church, where she and her husband lead the marriage mentor team. Former psychology professor, Amanda is now relentlessly sharing how her education in counseling and God’s word changed her life and marriage. You can be a part of the growing community of wives on Facebook or Instagram, and can find many helpful resources for your marriage at A Wife Like Me.


  1. Michelle

    Thank you for sharing, Amanda. May today we bring fun and laughter to our husbands. They are stressed. We are not the only ones feeling pressure. We need to be a team working toward the same goal. What a great reminder to let our husbands know we see them and appreciate them.

    • Sherri

      Amen to that! My husband juggles so much. He makes me tired just watching and listening to all that he does.


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