The Important Relationship With Your Mother and Mother-In-Law
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Relationships are challenging, and the mother-daughter relationship is one that can be complex and difficult to navigate.
Whether with our own mothers or mothers-in-law, we struggle in how to love our mothers well, yet also maneuver the honest feelings we’re experiencing within these relationships. On top of that, we wonder how to be mothers ourselves – and if what we’ve learned thus far being daughters ourselves is enough to build something stronger and healthier in the future.
I’ve often found myself wrestling with the tension of wanting to experience a strong mother-daughter relationship, yet also wanting to deal with real hurt, but not wanting conversations about the hurt to cause added tension–all in a way that is honorable.
Often times, this wrestling has led to conversations that haven’t gone well, to periods of time where there is no conversation at all, which has at times resulted in having relationship without resolution and with walls built up. And of course, the unsettled dynamic with a mother has the potential to negatively affect the marriage relationship, and it does. This is never the result we desire.
We are left at a stand still, unsure how to move forward and experience a restored relationship. Often feeling there is nothing left to try, and thinking the relationship will just have to stay the same.
This is the reason Blythe Daniel and her mother Helen McIntosh wrote the book Mended: restoring the hearts of mothers and daughters.
What I found as I read through these beautifully written pages was how the steps offered to walk readers toward reconciliation and restoration aren’t only applicable to the mother-daughter relationship, but are helpful and useful for any relationship.
From amazing insight on how to invite ideas on how to improve the relationship, how to ask for permission before offering input, to how to honestly assess our own hearts and hurts and how to walk forward through it, readers get much more than hope and healing for the mother-daughter relationship. Throughout these pages readers receive practical tools for every relationship. It is beautifully written from a mother and daughter perspective, laced with love and so much wisdom. It is a book I will keep close by and will refer to often.
In reading Mended, you’ll learn how to set new patterns going forward as you: find common ground and put your relationship ahead of your differences; learn what to say when you don’t know what to say; and grow closer when you do hard things together.
I am delighted to have this opportunity to share this book with you. Thank you to Harvest House Publishing, and most importantly Blythe Daniel and Helen McIntosh for writing a Biblical based book that shapes the relationship between mothers and daughters and will strengthen relationships of all kinds.
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Amanda Davison is the wife to a Minnesota farmer, mother of three, and President of the nonprofit, A Wife Like Me. She is the co-author of Dear Wife: 10 Minute Invitations to Practice Connection with Your Husband, and speaker, and serves on staff at her local church, where she and her husband lead the marriage mentor team. Amanda is relentlessly sharing how her education in counseling and God’s word changed her life and marriage. You can be a part of the growing community of wives on Facebook or Instagram, and can find many helpful resources for your marriage at A Wife Like Me.