The Dangerous Effects of Jealousy

As I sat across from her drinking coffee, I couldn’t help but think about how I have looked at her in the past. I have been jealous of her. Flat out ugly jealous. She seems to do life with such ease. Even the way that she loves Jesus seems flawless. Easy. Fun.

Oh, I’ve felt awful about this. I’ve asked the Lord to change my heart about her. About how it seems like her life is better than mine. About where my heart is tempted to go when I look at her and the opportunities she has. And you know what God has shown me as I’ve continued to bring these thoughts and feelings to Him?

She’s beautiful. She’s gifted at the calling he’s placed on her life. I can honestly say it’s brought me joy to watch her walk in this gifting. She’s showing other people who God is, and I get to watch. And all the while I’ve been jealous, she’s been cheering me along, reminding me of how God has designed and equipped me to live out this crazy life that God has called us to. She’s shown me Jesus. And I almost missed. Jealousy almost stole this from me.


As God continues to break down the walls of comparison in my heart, I’ve come to see that I have beauty in me, too. It’s not the same as this friend, and it shouldn’t be. I have a calling over my life with purpose and gifts that are unique to me. And you know what? God needs us both! He needs us both to declare loudly and boldly that He has room for us all and that we play a special part in showing the world His beauty. That we are a part, but He is EVERYTHING!

Is jealousy stealing from you? If it has, let me offer a word of encouragement. Galatians 6: 4-5 (MSG) reads, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.”

What creative work does God want to do in and through your life? Each and every one of us gets in on this opportunity to use what God has given us for His glory. There is no one that God excludes. When we spend time camping out with jealousy, we miss the opportunity to walk in our calling, but we also miss the opportunity to see God at work in those around us. It’s going to take us all ladies! Let’s get to work!

Wife Step: Prayerfully consider where jealousy may be rearing its ugly head in your life. Ask God to forgive you of this, and then ask God to reveal what He may be asking of you, based on the beautiful gifts He has given you. Also, ask God to show you how you can encourage your sister’s in Christ to do the same. 

The Dangerous Effects of Jealousy

Amy Walkup is in the final stages of completing her degree as a professional counselor. She is passionate about sitting with others in the midst of their pain and difficulties in order to find the place where God is working to bring restoration and transformation. Amy desires to see women, men, and families transformed by the grace of God. Living in rural Minnesota with her farming husband and two sets of twins, she continues to learn more about the grace of God and how this grace allows God’s children to be made new.


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