How to Fight for Your Marriage

If I was sitting across from you drinking a cup of coffee (with a lot of creamer), and talking about life, I would beg you to keep fighting for your marriage instead of giving up.


I’d look you straight in your eyes and urge you to take divorce off the table. I’d encourage you to speak more words of life. To create  a date at home, and remember why you fell in love. I’d tell you that your marriage was designed for The Kingdom, and your marriage is on purpose for God’s purpose, even if right now it doesn’t feel like it.


You will see new things. You will watch dry bones come alive. But you have to keep fighting.


I’d then hit home something you might not be hearing from friends – or even family. I’d look over that cup of coffee and tell you how much your marriage can change through prayer. 


I’d ask you how much you’re praying for your marriage and for your husband. I’d ask you to wake up early to spend time with Jesus in the morning and to put Him first. I’d challenge you to pray over your husband at night, and to ask God to help you see your spouse through His eyes and not your own.


We often want a better marriage but we bypass the most powerful tool to create a better marriage. 


I’d hold your hand and tell you that there will be a shift. Keep holding on. God is doing a new thing. His Word says so.


“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19 (NIV)


If your marriage feels like a wilderness right now, or even simply mundane, God will make a way. God promises streams in the darkest of places. He is your Living Water and will quench your every need.


Friend, this advice is for women in healthy yet hard marriages. If you’re in an abusive or toxic situation, seek help and get counseling immediately. 


Wife Step: Write out a prayer for your marriage. Tape it up on your mirror in your car, and say them out loud every single day. Watch as your marriage transforms and give God all the glory for it!

Kaitlin is a wife, author, speaker, and coach who loves words, good coffee, and traveling to new cities. Her favorite places include airports, hotel rooms, and bookstores. Kaitlin and her husband Caleb live in Huntsville, AL and serve at Church of the Highlands. She never meets a stranger and is a sucker for brunch dates. She hopes everyone who meets her sees Jesus in her eyes and feels a little lighter when they leave her presence. You can say hi to Kaitlin on social media at @kaitlinchappellrogers on Instagram, Pinterest, and Facebook, @kchaprogers on Twitter, or on her website at! 


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