10 Greatest Blessings in Marriage
Honestly, I can easily jot down a list of what’s wrong in my marriage. But I find it difficult to complete a list of blessings. As a wife, can you relate?
The ugliest thing I discovered about my tendency to focus on the negative is what I found as antonyms of “blessing.” According to synonyms.com, the opposite of blessings include: disapproval, curse, rejection, depreciation, negate, invalidate, dislike, boycott and dishonor.
Now, take a look at the synonyms for blessings: approval, acceptance, grace, support, reward, backing, mercy and thanksgiving.
As soon as you and I said, “I do,” God placed a calling on our lives as wives. With this calling, doesn’t it make sense to form our perspectives through the lens of God’s grace and mercy? Why would we want to view it through any other lens?
Let’s start today by making a list of marriage blessings.
1. The blessing of oneness.
To be one with your husband is one of the great mysteries and rewards of marriage. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31 (ESV)
2. The blessing of togetherness.
Decide not to take your marriage for granted. Think about how many women feel alone and long for a spouse. “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10:9 (ESV)
3. The blessing of friendship.
The Lord created us as relational beings, first with him, then others. Becoming best friends in marriage is without a doubt an epic blessing—you can always have a friend by your side.
4. The blessing of love.
Remember these endearing expressions: He’s the love of my life. He’s my lover.
5. The blessing of family ties.
Although bringing two families together after matrimony isn’t easy, this increase in family is meant to be a good thing. It can be a built-in support group.
6. The blessing of dependence.
God created marriage as a mutual dependence. It’s a bond of unity for a husband and a wife to complement one another.
7. The blessing of authenticity.
If you can be who you really are around someone, shouldn’t it be your husband? Not only did the Lord create us for relationships, but also for authentic relationships—not having to put up a facade.
8. The blessing of vulnerability.
My husband and I feel closer and connected more emotionally when we are vulnerable with each other. It’s an amazing blessing to be honest where we struggle and need help.
9. The blessing of support.
Marriage is the place we are meant to find the ultimate support. Whether you need emotional, mental, financial, physical or any kind of support, one of the greatest blessings in marriage is knowing who you can count on.
10. The blessing of sexual intimacy.
This blessing directly points back to the first blessing — oneness. God created us for oneness in body, spirit and soul. Our oneness in our bodies includes sexual intimacy. Sex is a good gift, a great blessing given to us by the Creator. “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:5 (ESV)
Dear wife, this list is in no way exhaustive. Neither are God’s blessings over our marriage. Count them daily to be encouraged in your faith and marriage.
Wife Step: Begin a list of marriage blessings to keep in a journal or however you choose. Include my ten to build upon, or start from scratch. Ask the Lord to reveal blessings to you and pray them over your marriage and share them with your husband.
Note: Listing your blessings doesn’t equal staying stuck in denial. This article in no way implies to deny any abusive situations in marriage. Seek out good biblical counsel with regards to protective measures for abuse.
Karen Friday is a pastor’s wife and women’s ministry leader. As an award-winning writer and avid speaker, she loves words and God’s Word. For over a decade, she has balanced the busy life of church ministry with working from her home office in marketing where she is frequently referred to as Girl Friday. A blogger, Karen “Girl” Friday engages a community every week, Hope is Among Us. She has published a number of articles and devotions in both print and online media, and is currently working on her first book. Karen’s writing connects family life experiences, Christian ministry, and real life scenarios as women to the timeless truths of Scripture. Vulnerable about her own marriage journey, Karen knows life never gets more real than as a wife. Karen and her husband Mike have two grown children and two grandchildren. The entire family is fond of the expression, “TGIF: Thank God it’s Friday.” They owe Monday an apology. Visit her blog at KarenGirlFriday.com