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How to Change Your Husband – Debbie Taylor Williams

July 24, 2018

How to Change Your Husband

I hope you’re laughing at my title.  It’s obviously “tongue in cheek” since we can’t change another person.


We can change our attitude. We can change our mind. We can even change our hair color. But, we can’t change our husband.


We should know this since it’s hard for us to even change ourselves…as in dropping unwanted pounds or sticking with an exercise routine.


But what if we want our husband to change? What if he can’t control his anger, he lies, or has a wandering eye? What if he’s unkind and doesn’t care about our marriage?


What We Can Do – A Prayer Path

Our Heavenly Father invites us to come to Him with our worries and requests. It’s been a joy to see His faithfulness in Keith’s and my marriage. My journal, Prayers of My Heart, is filled with praises for answered prayers. I follow a “prayer path” using God’s character for my prayers for Keith and me.


Follow the Path of God’s Nature


Prayers of My Heart has three sections. Following is an example of how I use the Week At a Glance section to pray for my husband and me.


I label the first column, LORD, and begin my prayer time praising Him for who He is: kind, loving, forgiving, patient, etc.  I then use God’s nature as the springboard for my prayers for Keith and me. Why? The Bible explains to us that a key to transformation is to look at Jesus.

“we all, who … contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.”

2 Corinthians 3:18 NIV


In other words, just as we look in a mirror to see if our hair is out of place and if it is, we comb it; we can look at Jesus and see where we’re out of place spiritually and pray to be transformed into His image.  The following Prayers of My Heart  “Week At A Glance” section is how I use God’s nature as a prompt for praying for my husband and myself. I label the additional column headings with my children’s names and others for whom I regularly pray.

Rather than nag our husband to change, we can use Christ’s character as a prayer prompt to pray for our husbands and ourselves.

Wife Step:  Partner with God in prayer for your husband. Use God’s character as a prayer path for you and your husband’s transformation. Begin today!


Resources:   Prayers of My Heart Prayer Journal

7 Benefits of Journaling

Week At a Glance: Why We Love It

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“We cannot carry all the burdens of the world, but we can carry the ones God places in our lives.  The unique column format in ‘Prayers of My Heart’ prayer journal gives us a way to sort out those burdens and take them to the Lord.

I love this approach to daily prayer.”  BETH MOORE



Debbie Taylor Williams, founder of Hill Country Ministries, a non-profit 501© 3 dedicated to spreading God’s Word and love, is a sought out national Christian speaker and author. Best known as a passionate Biblical expositor, Debbie uses humor and practical illustrations to communicate spiritual truths to women of all ages and walks of life. She has written 7 books and produced numerous video driven Bible studies, including The Plan A Mom In a Plan B World, The Plan A Woman In a Plan B World, Pray With Purpose, Live With Passion; Prayers of My Heart; If God Is In Control, Why Do I Have A Headache?; If God Is In Control, Why Am I A Basket Case, and Discovering His Passion.


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