By Heather Logan
Do you have wounds that won’t heal?
We live in a broken world. Sin has infiltrated everything and people often end up hurting one another. Sometimes it’s unintentional, but those careless words, lack of understanding and empathy, physical harm or betrayal by those you love can cause deep-rooted wounds within your heart.
Those wounds can plant themselves within your core belief about who you are. Lies form throughout relationships. A distortion of what is real and true can cloud your mind and become the framework from which you operate. You may keep moving forward, but if the pain that was caused doesn’t go through healing and restoration, it won’t just go away.
Many of us walk through life not realizing the wounds and scars that we carry. I want to share the things I have learned about how to walk through the pain and find freedom and healing in Jesus.
What do you do when nothing seems to work?
Some of my closest friends have been the ones who have hurt me the most. There has been deep pain in my life caused by words people have spoken to me about who I was, or how I was walking through difficult circumstances.
Those words haunted me for years. They made me question everything about myself and caused me to distrust others. We have all heard the saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” and that could not be farther from the truth. Physical harm does damage, but our words really matter.
I did my best to forgive and let go but the pain didn’t just disappear. Those who had hurt me never even knew how much pain they had caused. Trying to navigate it alone made me feel isolated and confused in the struggle.
Jesus meets you in the pain.
Finally, after a while of trying to just “get over it” and not understanding what was wrong with me, I began to journal my thoughts and pain with Jesus. I would come to him and just pour out everything. I found such comfort in knowing that he already knew what I was walking through, and he understood the pain.
Not only did he know me, but he knew what it was like to struggle in this world of sin. He also knew what it felt like to be hurt and betrayed by his closest friends and people he loved. Jesus’s own disciple Judas was the one who turned him over to the enemy to be crucified and he knew others were going to deny him. He knows exactly what it feels like to be hurt by those you love.
“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin.” Hebrews 4:15 (NIV)
Jesus knows you and knows how you feel. He can feel far away and intangible sometimes, but when you remember that he was a human in this same sinful world it’s comforting to know that he does get it. He empathizes with your struggle and he cares.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
Jesus is the one who will bring healing, but it will take time.
Healing will probably take longer than you think. It is not something you just brush under the rug and continue on your way.
If you want true healing from the pain that has been caused, bring it to Jesus. Allow him to speak his truth over you, and to meet you in the difficulty. Tell him how much it hurts, and allow yourself time to get over it.
Remind yourself that he knows you and he knows how much the pain hurts. When it doesn’t get better right away, keep going to him, it will get easier and your healing is worth it.
Wife Step: Start journaling your hurts and imagine Jesus sitting beside you, meeting you in your pain.
Heather is passionate about Jesus, marriage, motherhood, and writing. She and her hubby have 5 kiddos, are enjoying their 2nd decade of marriage, and love being part of the local church. There’s really no such thing as “free time” but if there is a spare moment you’ll likely find Heather writing. She is currently putting the editing touches on her first book and has her sights set on authoring many more. Her love for coffee is strong, and her favorite way to enjoy her caffeine is during a conversation getting to know someone better. Heather’s passion is to encourage women in their pursuit of Jesus in all areas of life.