Dear Wife Craving a Honeymoon

Every five years, my husband and I plan a special anniversary trip together. We’ve been married eleven years, which means we’ve taken our honeymoon plus two additional big trips.

These trips have added so much to our marriage that we encourage all couples to plan special time away together to strengthen their marriage. It’s important to listen to the craving of alone time with your spouse, and it’s important to respond.

Why are these trips so beneficial?

We anticipate together. Married life gets hard, especially while raising children. Big trips give you something to look forward to in tough seasons.

We share a unique experience. A shared experience is great for relationships. It’s thrilling, adventurous, and romantic to share an experience for the first time together, which creates deeper connection.

We create memories together. We have memories from these trips we share and talk about together and with friends and our children. Our children see us placing a high priority on investing in our relationship, and it builds their dreams of traveling to different countries.

We invest in uninterrupted time together. For several days, it is just us. Our phones are off, and no one needs us. My husband brought questions we could ask each other–some funny, some serious. Giving your spouse the investment of time through listening to them, even if it’s listening to them answer silly questions, is a great way to connect and make them feel heard.

Marriages begin with the honeymoon, and continue with years of investment in one other. Great marriages are built slowly over years of adventures, experiences, and memories made together. A great marriage isn’t something you invest in one time. It’s something you build, and then keep building.  

Low on funds? If money is tight and you’re unable to take a trip out of town, you can get creative and plan out a special ‘staycation’ where the kids are with family or friends and you vacation at home, making it special.

Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. 1 John 3:18

Are you looking for a practical way to reconnect with your husband? Grab your copy of Dear Wife: 10 Minute Invitations to Practice Connection with Your Husband, here.

Wife Step: What is a fun weekend getaway you can plan for you and your husband where you can adventure and reconnect together?

Kristin lives in Huntsville, Al (or Rocket City as the Huntsvillian’s call it) with her husband Tim and two daughters. Kristin and her husband helped start Epic Church in San Francisco, Ca., and are now the lead planters of Essential Church in Huntsville, Al.  

While living and working in San Francisco, Kristin and her husband felt God calling them to Huntsville to start a church for people in the South who no longer believed church was for them.  She’s been married to her best friend and biggest fan, Tim, for ten years. Together they have three beautiful girls.

Before motherhood, Kristin was a Mary Kay director and an aspiring business woman. After years of hard work launching and maintaining a successful career, it all fell apart upon moving across the country. For years after losing her career, Kristin struggled with understanding her value and self-worth. She sought value in other titles, such as being a pastor’s wife, and then eventually a mom.

Kristin now understands our value doesn’t come from the titles or careers we have. Kristin is a stay-at-home mom who seeks to give her children an ordinary, happy childhood. She seeks to find her value in Jesus each day and teaches her kids to do the same by teaching them scripture and letting them see how God fills our shortcomings. She has found her family’s gifts come to the surface when there is space for simplicity. She loves running, reading, writing, being outdoors, and hiking with her family.