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6 Ways to Reconnect with Your Husband – Ashley Willis

February 12, 2019

6 Ways to Reconnect With Your Husband


1. Laugh together.

Laughter is good for the soul. However, when we feel disconnected from our spouse, this can be hard to do. But, that’s exactly what our relationship needs! We need to find a reason to laugh together, and this laughter will naturally lighten things up between us. Watch a comedy together. Talk about your favorite funny moments together. Be silly. You’d be amazed at how laughter will bring the two of you together.

2. Talk about it.

The minute we sense a lack of connection with our spouse, we need to address it. The problem isn’t just going to go away on its own. Communication is key. My husband, Dave, and I have certainly had some seasons of disconnection during our nearly eighteen years of marriage, and any time I feel it, I let him know right away. Sometimes, he feels it too; other times, he has no idea that something is missing. I always feel better after we talk about it open and honestly. Then, we are able to face any issues head on and reconnect once again.

3. Be cautious of your other relationships.

When we start to feel less connected to our spouse, it is tempting to try and cultivate a closer connection with a friend or coworker to replace the closeness that we should only share with our partner. Please be aware of this! I have seen too many spouses end up in emotional or physical affairs or even codependent, unhealthy friendships simply because they are lonely and feeling a disconnection with their spouse. We need to lean into our spouses during this time, more than any other. We can’t expect something or someone else to replace the intimacy we need to have with him. Turning to other relationships for, what should be, spousal closeness only leads to terrible decisions and situations that we NEVER thought we could find ourselves in, and the consequences are heartbreaking.

4. Try something new together.

If we know we are in a marital slump, we need to change up our routine. We may be tempted to use our kids, work, or responsibilities as excuses as to why we feel less connected to our spouse, but excuses won’t bring us any closer to each other. Try something new together! If you don’t currently enjoy a date night together, start dating again. Aim for once a month, then increase it to once a week. Take turns planning the date nights. Be silly. Go dancing. Do that “thing” you have always wanted to try together but never seemed to have the time to do. Yes, it will take sacrificing something, but we have to be willing to change things up to climb out of a slump.

5. Be patient with each other.

We didn’t find ourselves on different pages overnight, so we can’t expect to reconnect in a flash. These things take time and effort, but I promise you, it is worth it. Anytime we work to improve our marriages, we will reap the benefits like more intimacy, trust, honesty, support, fun, excitement, stability, etc.. Take it day by day. Don’t give up!

6. Pray together every day.

Some of you may already do this, but if you don’t, I encourage you to join your spouse in prayer every day. Ask for God’s help! When we pray together, we are not only connecting with God but also sharing our hearts with each other in a vulnerable way. I firmly believe in the power of prayer, and I believe God will help us in our time of need.

 

If you are reading this, and you find yourself upset or shaking your head in disbelief that any of these things will work, please know that you are not alone. There is hope. Every marriage goes through highs and lows. It is hard! A strong marriage takes constant attention, communication, and work, but it is so worth it. You can and will feel a close connection to your husband once again.

 

For more on how to grow closer than ever to your spouse, be sure to get our NEW book, The Naked Marriage, which is now available on Amazon and where books are sold. We are so excited about this powerful resource, and we hope and pray it will bless your marriage!

Ashley Willis is one of America’s most widely-read relationship bloggers. She writes primarily on issues related to faith, marriage and motherhood in her books and blogs. Ashley and her husband, Dave, have been doing marriage ministry together for the last 7 years, and they founded the Facebook Marriage Page. Dave and Ashley speak together at marriage conferences all over the U.S., and they recently joined the team at MarriageToday. They have four young sons and live in Keller, TX. For additional resources, please visit DaveAndAshleyWillis.com and follow Ashley on FacebookInstagram, and Pinterest.

 

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