4 Tips For Becoming a Team in Marriage
Marriage is just hard, isn’t it?
You’re not alone, I assure you.
Yes, marriage is hard, but overcoming difficulties is the springboard to a healthy, lasting relationship.
So how do you overcome difficulties? I’m glad you asked.
It’s a basic concept but I believe it’s the one of the most important concepts to build a healthy marriage. You must work together as a team.
Hear me. When you’re married, you automatically become a team. But is your team in chaos? Or is your team strong and healthy? Are you spending more time fighting against one another rather than standing together? Is your spouse your person? Do you get him and does he get you?
How much greater could our marriages be if we worked together as a unified team?
My husband, John, and I are polar opposites. We have two different thought processes in parenting. And although the two are different, we have managed to blend them together. I make up for his weaknesses and he makes up for mine. The result is a really strong parenting style between the two of us, raising two strong, independent daughters. Two completely different pieces of a puzzle, yet we fit together so perfectly.
Although our marriage certainly isn’t perfect, we’ve learned how to work together as a TEAM. Working together as a team is crucial to marriage fulfillment and growth.
Here are my 4 tips for becoming a TEAM in marriage.
- Express curiosity in your husband’s profession. Be interested in what he does everyday. Get to know the people he works with, even if you never meet.
- Support your husband’s dreams that may be different then your own. Do you even know your spouse’s dreams? If not, think about that. Why don’t you know?
- Give your husband a safe place to land. You should be able to be vulnerable with your spouse. Nothing should be off limits when it comes to sharing your hearts with one another. Your spouse should be the one person you share EVERYTHING with.
- Realize that if YOU win, your team loses. Marriage is not about YOU. It’s not about you being right. It’s about understanding each other better. If you disagree on something, good! Take the time to understand each others feelings and opinion. It’s okay to disagree, in fact I think it’s healthy, but you must understand each other and come to a resolution together.
Ecclesiastes 4:9- Two are better than one; for they can help each other succeed.” (NLT)
Wife Step: Choose one of the four tips and put it into practice today!
Shannon Geurin is a wife, mother, writer and speaker; but most of all she’s a fighter. She has learned what it takes to fight for her marriage and family. She is deeply passionate about empowering women to rise up through their circumstances and fight in order to find their greatest calling. Shannon loves serving an actively engaged “Fiercely His” community via her website www.shannongeurin.com. Her authentic, genuine style and courage to speak the truth is a breath of fresh air to her readers and is one of her greatest qualities. An Oklahoma girl at heart with the accent and “y’alls” to prove it, she currently resides in the beautiful mountains of Colorado. She graduated with a nursing degree from the University of Oklahoma, but spends her time sipping coffee, writing and doing what she loves most, taking care of her crazy family. Shannon has been married for more than 25 years to her husband John, and is Mom to two spirited daughters, Alex and Averee.