By Victoria Riollano

Who can you run to for wisdom in your time of need? I have quickly learned that I need others as sources of accountability when I am seeking wisdom. 

Yet, in a world full of opinion and judgment, seeking wise counsel becomes harder and harder. Nonetheless, the Bible still calls us to attain wisdom from the Lord and others.

Wisely Seeking Wisdom

We cannot live our lives alone and be truly wise. We are called to be in community and to learn from one another.  So many wives are experiencing tough situations from infidelity to infertility. Even the everyday scenario like establishing which spouse is the breadwinner or who is responsible for certain chores can put much strain on the relationship.

We must intentionally seek wisdom. This doesn’t mean that we share our marital issues or all our disagreements with anyone willing to listen. Instead, it means that we find trusted individuals or sources that can lead us back to the Word of God. 

Rather than just leaning on our own opinion, we must not neglect the reality that we have a God ready to help. He’s also equipped others who’ve been through what you are going through and can offer you the strength and hope you may need.

What the Bible Says About Wisdom

The Bible is clear when it comes to wisdom. Proverbs 4:7 says, “Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment.” (NIV) 

The Bible goes on to say this in Proverbs 3:14-15, “Wisdom is worth more than silver; it brings more profit than gold. Wisdom is more precious than rubies; nothing you could want is equal to it. (NCV). 

Money, status, time, nor anything else can replace the value of godly wisdom. Wisdom is what helps you to shift your mindset in troubling scenarios. Wisdom is what gives you a strategy to know what to do next. 

How much more powerful would our marriages be if we chose to seek wisdom over self-pity or irritation? I believe the Lord wants us to not neglect the beauty of asking for help.

Three Ways to Wisely Seek Wisdom

These three ways can help you seek wisdom wisely as a wife.

1. Seek the Lord in Prayer.

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. James 1:5 NLT

The first step to seeking wisdom is to pray. Remember the Lord does not operate in our concept of timing. He knows all things from beginning to end. Nothing catches him by surprise. Even better, the Lord has known your husband before he was even born. God knows your spouse’s tendencies, what frustrates him, and what is needed to see your home at peace. Remember, the Lord will not rebuke you for asking for help!

2. Find a trustworthy friend.

Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice. Proverbs 27:9 NIV

Every wife needs a God-fearing friend. These kinds of relationships will help you when times get tough. Rather than encouraging you to fight your spouse or act out of character, these kinds of friends will guide you back to God’s word. A trustworthy friend is one who won’t spread gossip, belittle you, or make you feel like a failure when things go wrong. Ask the Lord to highlight a friend who can be a place of safety for you.

3. Seek trustworthy counsel.

Without wise leadership, a nation falls; there is safety in having many advisers. Proverbs 11:14 NLT

Be willing to deeply research your need from a trusted source. If you’re having marital issues, find pastors or counselors who’ve written books on how to overcome such issues. If you need business ideas, don’t be afraid to research strategies for success from fellow business owners. There are countless resources that can guide you in the right direction.

Let us never become so prideful that we think we have all the answers. Remember, seeking wisdom is the wisest choice we will ever make!

Wife Step: Apply one of these three tips this week to seek wisdom wisely.

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