When Comfortable Covers Over The Good

Oh, the things we can take for granted, especially when it comes to our husbands.  Those sweet little things that seemed so special at first, we can come to expect without any thought or appreciation as time passes by and our lives settle into routine.

God has revealed this to me lately.  And girlfriends, let me tell you, I am slightly broken by my lack of appreciation for this beautiful man God has given me.

I have come to expect my coffee poured for me in the mornings.  I have come to rely on the fact that hubby will rise early and get the kiddos to school.  Of course I depend on him to solve any problem, household dysfunction, or automobile issue at the drop of a dime.  And he loves to cook, so why not?

I’m guessing you have a list of things your husband helps with or does that you’ve grown accustomed to. It might take a minute to think of the things he does, but I encourage you to take a minute and do that now.

The fact that, after 11 years of marriage, I often fail to appreciate the many great things about my husband. When did I stop saying “thank you” for these sweet moments? When did they become the ordinary? Can you relate?

Ladies, while it’s so easy to get comfortable in our marriages, let’s make an effort to not let the things that once sparked our hearts become the norm.  Let’s work to not under-appreciate the special things our husbands do that are just for us.  

And ideally, our husbands do the same. But like we say here at A Wife Like Me, focusing on our own heart is our job, so let’s do that well!

How can we more easily appreciate our husbands?

~ Take a good look at your husband.  See him through the eyes of love that you viewed him through on your wedding day, and let your heart go back to that time.

~ Make a conscious effort to take note of all he does for you. And when he does something sweet, just say “thank you”.

~ Write your husband a note of encouragement and let him know you are thinking of him and appreciating what he does to make you feel loved. Or, send him a text (use those cool heart emojis…he’ll smile for sure)!

~ Pray and ask God to give you a heart of gratitude for the gift your husband is in your life.  

~ Return the favor when you notice your husband helped you, and do something sweet and special for your guy.

~ Pray, Pray, Pray!  Never stop praying for your husband.  God will hear those prayers.

Wife Step: Tonight, take a good long look at the man who lies down on the pillow beside you each night. Really look into his heart, noticing the beauty you find there. Then, tell him how much you appreciate him. Even the smallest things can boost your man’s heart. Share with him! 

Betty Predmore is a writer, blogger, speaker, and ministry leader. She is a licensed Christ-based counselor and is Co-founder of the Women of Virtue Empowerment Network, a faith-based non profit organization created for the purpose of inspiring and encouraging women to find help and hope in Jesus Christ. She is also founder of Mom-Sense: Making Sense of Motherhood, where she writes and speaks on motherhood issues. Betty loves to speak at events, sharing practical life application mingled with God’s word, and sprinkled with humor.  She enjoys sharing her blogs on social media as a way of reaching out on a broader spectrum.  Social media has given her a platform to reach much farther than her feet could take her.