One Simple Trick to Make Your Husband Feel Loved

Calling a friend recently, I was met with this greeting, “Thanks for calling, I’ll return to the office on October 10th.  Leave a message, and I will call you back.”

With a quick call to her cell, I realized her message was stale and in need of update. It was June. The message was now almost a year old.

This had me thinking…what needs updating in how I greet people? What needs updating in how I greet my spouse?

Have you ever wondered what it’s like coming home to…you? What is it like being greeted by you when your husband comes home?

While I’m thankful that my husband knows me well enough to assess my mood and day with little more than a glance, my intentional greeting speaks volumes. My hearts wants to connect with my husband and to encourage him…at hello.

It’s a powerful, simple step to make your husband feel loved.

You may be laughing out loud right this minute, even shaking your fist in my direction with words of:

“Are you kidding me?  I’ve been at work all day whether in my home with littles,  offering chauffeur service to young teens’ schedules, or completing an 8-hour office day…then headed home for the 2nd half of the work day that just opened at 5:00 pm.”

Oh friends, do I resonate with you!

So when we feel overwhelmed and don’t feel like we want to give our husbands a warm welcome, how can we prepare for the greeting each day?

Paul, who met Jesus in a dramatic moment on the road to Damascus, wrote thirteen of our New Testament letters.  His letters most often began with these words,

Grace and peace to you from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord.

Whether your husband walks in the door before you, with you, or you are home all day, offer a greeting of grace and peace to him. This feels very different than a greeting of chaos and frustration.

Pray before he arrives, asking God to give you His grace and peace to offer.  Because let’s be real – sometimes we don’t have any to offer from ourselves.

Your hello is a daily gift to your husband – an offer of grace and peace – what a privilege we have!

Wife step:  Assess your current greeting. For the next week, adjust that greeting with the grace and peace of Jesus as your guide.

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.  Proverbs 16:24

Saying yes to Jesus in walking by faith has charted an unexpectedly challenging, joy-filled journey for Susan Wilder. From preschool teacher to writer, speaker, blogger, her sweetest moments come through encouraging women to seek God first and realize the hope we have in following Jesus. Tender love for her husband, Frank, daughters Katie, Kellie, and Mollie, son Clay, sons-in-law Chris, Tim and Tolliver drive her hobbies of cooking and reading. The title of Mimi to four grandboys is more precious than ever imagined. Just ask, she’ll tell you all about them. Susan currently serves as the Women’s Ministry Leader at Southeast Christian Church (Crestwood Campus) in Louisville, Kentucky.  Blog: www.byfaithandcoffee.com