By Karen Smith

What does fruit salad in the bedroom mean? And how might it help improve sex in your marriage? Discover more with me today.

Fruit Salad, Yummy Yummy!

Have you ever heard of that old kids show called “The Wiggles”? They sing a song titled “Fruit Salad, Yummy Yummy.” 

I’m confident if you’ve ever had the enjoyment of hearing this song, it will forever stick in your head. While the music is cute and meant to help your kids learn to eat fruit, it has an entirely different meaning to me.

I’m about to get real personal here, ladies. (Please note: I did seek permission before sharing this story with the world, but my face may still be warm and red!)

My relationship with my husband in the bedroom was not glorious or wonderful. Body image and insecurity issues made my physical relationship with my husband a challenge. I was unwilling to be adventurous in the bedroom and did not desire my husband to explore my body.

The struggle in my mind was near impossible to overcome. My body image issues left my marriage in shambles.

It’s only in retrospect and too numerous to count counseling sessions that I can connect my marriage struggles with my body image insecurities.

God designed our marriage to be a safe, intimate place where love has no boundaries. 

Fruit Salad in the Bedroom

In an effort to restore my relationship with my husband, we began to have bedroom challenges. These challenges allowed for emotional and physical connection with my husband. 

As it was nearing Valentine’s Day, I opened a challenge titled “Fruit Salad.” Tears flowed down my face when I read the challenge, my insides swirled around like never before, and my heart pounded in my chest. I began to question the advice we were receiving in therapy. Did people do things like this in their bedroom? Were other marriages adventurous and fun? 

My mind could not comprehend the idea of taking cut-up fruit into the bedroom and allowing my husband to eat fruit off of my body! Suddenly, fruit salad took on new meaning in ways I could never imagine.

While the details of this challenge are not necessary, the results of this challenge amazed me. Did I find this exciting and fun? Sadly, no. However, my husband came alive as he explored my body and loved me from my head down to my toes.

Fruit Salad for Your Marriage

Some challenges deserved repeating, and this was one of them. Fruit salad happened more than once in my bedroom. Who would have ever guessed that fruit salad would open up a closer, more intimate relationship with my husband and open my heart to receiving my husband’s outpouring love for the first time? 

By processing these challenges in counseling and pressing through uncomfortable scenarios and conversations, I can say that I found a passion that I had never understood before. 

There are a multitude of reasons why your physical relationship can suffer. Your marriage is worth working through, finding these issues, and overcoming! If you find your physical relationship a challenge, may I suggest seeking Christian counseling together?  

Fruit salad, yummy yummy. A Valentine’s challenge that I found overwhelming became the catalyst for change in my life and in my marriage. (Uh huh uh huh!) I have discovered we are not guaranteed tomorrow with our spouse. Fruit salad sessions have ended due to a debilitating disease that has robbed my marriage of so much. However, I will forever be grateful that fruit salad became a bedroom treat.

Wife Step: Do you feel your physical relationship with your husband is a struggle? If so, please find an experienced Christian counselor who can help you uncover the reasons why. If your relationship in the bedroom is great and needs a little pep on occasion, try some fruit salad!