7 Ways To Show Loyalty To Your Husband

“You’re the most loyal person I know,” he said, as he scooped up the scrambled eggs I had made for breakfast that morning. Surely, I misheard him.

After all, our marriage did suffer a tragic blow ten years ago when I was unfaithful.

Today we’re completely restored, and our marriage is equally fulfilling and healthy. So, although it should be no surprise that he said those words, somehow, I had a hard time believing him.

Most would agree that infidelity in marriage is the epitome of disloyalty. Even though forgiveness and trust can be re-established, “loyalty” isn’t a word I would use to describe someone who has committed adultery.

“I am?” I said. His brows furrowed, and he seemed puzzled, “Well, yeah?!”  

The fact is, loyalty in marriage goes beyond fidelity. Loyalty is about being reliable, trustworthy, dedicated and true. And I believe that loyalty is one of the strongest predictors of a long-term, stable marriage.

A beautiful aspect of loyalty in marriage is the personal growth that happens when we’re loyal to our spouse. We improve our own character by being challenged and in turn we grow and develop as a person, which betters our marriage. And isn’t his an important goal we should all strive for?

Here are 7 ways to show loyalty to your husband:

Be supportive. You should be your husbands biggest cheerleader. Spend time talking about what he does at his job. Choose words that encourage and build him up.

Strive for deeper connection. Your husband should be your very best friend. Cultivate an atmosphere of intimacy on a regular basis. Remember important dates. Encourage and stand by him in challenging times, even if you don’t feel like it. Don’t give him your left-overs, give him your absolute best self.

Trust your husband. Trust in his decisions as it regards your family. This might be hard if you happen to be the planner or organizer in your marriage. But trusting him in decisions is important to your husband. Ask him for his advice before you go to your Mom or friend.

Put your husband above the kids. This can be especially difficult if you have small children, because they are so demanding of your time. You can show your husband he’s important even if you’re caring for your children by simply engaging with your husband while the kids are present. Give your time, energy and talents serving your man, too.  Don’t forget that investing in your man builds a stronger family.

Be respectful—in public as well as private. Listen carefully and attentively with your husband. Speak highly of him even if you don’t “feel” very highly of him in the moment. Never, ever “husband-bash” to your friends or co-workers. It’s just not cool and only makes you look bad.

Keep private things private. Some things need to be kept between you two. This means not sharing intimate details with your best friend or Mom. They don’t need to know every detail about your sex life, financial situation or the disagreement you had last night. Remember, your husband should be your go-to person, not your friend or Mom.

Make decisions together (regardless of what your friend, Mom, neighbors think). Talk through important decisions with your husband and your husband only. You two are a team. Your opinions are the only opinions that matter at first. Seeking counsel from others is biblical and wise; however, it should be done when both of you are in agreement to do so.

One of the most beautiful scriptures as it relates to loyalty can be found in Ruth 1:16.

But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.

Ruth is speaking to her mother in law here, but why not change the conversation here and apply it to our marriages. Of course, one of the greatest examples of loyalty is Jesus Christ. Let’s decide today to cultivate an atmosphere of loyalty with our husbands!

Wife Step: Ask your husband how he would like you to show him loyalty.

Shannon Geurin is a wife, mother, writer and speaker; but most of all she’s a fighter. She has learned what it takes to fight for her marriage and family. She is deeply passionate about empowering women to rise up through their circumstances and fight in order to find their greatest calling.  Shannon loves serving an actively engaged “Fiercely His” community via her website www.shannongeurin.com. Her authentic, genuine style and courage to speak the truth is a breath of fresh air to her readers and is one of her greatest qualities. An Oklahoma girl at heart with the accent and “y’alls” to prove it, she currently resides in the beautiful mountains of Colorado.  She graduated with a nursing degree from the University of Oklahoma, but spends her time sipping coffee, writing and doing what she loves most, taking care of her crazy family. Shannon has been married for more than 25 years to her husband John,  and is Mom to two spirited daughters, Alex and Averee.

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