By Jess Robichaud
You want to be a trustworthy wife, right? Let’s talk about trust. Trust is an essential building block in a marriage.
What Does a Trustworthy Wife Look Like?
I grew up learning the importance of the biblical principles of trust and integrity. But when I got married, I had no idea how essential those things were in a marriage.
When Adam and I were working in counseling to overcome our struggles, past hurts, baggage, and whatever else came up, trust is what propelled us into a healthy marriage. Trust allowed us to go “all-in” with one another.
After time, that trust grew and solidified the more consistent we were.
But what does a trustworthy wife look like in everyday life?
Being trustworthy means being above reproach in every aspect of life. This means that we are honest and reliable in all areas, including these examples:
- Sticking to the budget
- Not hiding packages or expenses
- Doing what we say we will do
- Talking respectfully about our husbands to others
- Keeping our social media posts about our husbands respectful and kind
- Sticking through tough conversations
- Being present even when things get tough
This doesn’t mean that we won’t make mistakes, but it does mean that our hearts are in a place of wanting trustworthiness to be the anthem of our marriages.
3 Reasons to Be a Trustworthy Wife
Yes, the Bible talks about trust and how we are to have integrity, but what is the “why” behind that in a marriage? Here are three reasons.
- Being trustworthy creates safety for emotional intimacy.
“Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out.” – Proverbs 10:9 (ESV)
Want to have emotional intimacy with your spouse and really have a deep, rich connection? It starts with trust.
Emotional intimacy cannot take place without trust. Our actions and choices will have a direct impact on how safe our husbands feel about being vulnerable, opening up, and sharing their hearts with us.
- Being trustworthy shows respect for our husbands.
“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” -Ephesians 5:33 (ESV)
God has called us to be respectful to our husbands. But respect isn’t always a feeling; sometimes, respect is an obedient action. Being above reproach is actively respecting our husbands in a tangible way. This attitude says, “I respect you enough to be open, honest, and trustworthy in all that we share, even when it’s hard.”
- Being trustworthy creates a team mentality.
When we aren’t trustworthy, we are focused on ourselves, which can and will separate husbands and wives. The focus is on meeting our own desires and needs without being aware of our husbands’ needs and desires..
Being trustworthy, however, says to our husbands “I’m on your team” and “I care about you and our marriage more than myself.” The focus becomes on the marriage unit and what will be best for you as a team. This will unify a husband and wife in an incredible way.
Learning to Be a Trustworthy Wife
Remember that trust is not built quickly. Trust is built through intentionality and consistency over time.
I want to leave you with this final verse:
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:10-12 (NIV)
A wife of noble character is one who is trustworthy. This trustworthiness leads to a husband who has full confidence in his wife.
Dear wife, trust is vital to creating a healthy marriage. My prayer is that you will seek the Lord’s and choose to act above reproach.
Wife Step: In which areas can you grow to be a more trustworthy wife?
Jess is passionate about helping couples have an awesome marriage built on the foundation of Christ. Out of their own marriage struggles, Jess and her husband, Adam, founded Radiant Marriage to challenge and encourage couples towards deep levels of intimacy with each other and with the Lord. Jess is also a marriage and family therapist intern where she walks with couples through trauma to bring healing. Together with her husband, their main goal is to radiate the love of Christ and bring hope to couples in the midst of difficulty.
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