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By Heather Frank

Who are you when life blindsides you? Do you persevere, putting your trust in God when it’s difficult to trust the process through it?

It is said that you don’t know the depth of a person until their feet meet the fire of a situation. You can tell who or what they trust in by how they react to circumstances that are less than ideal.

I like routine and would rarely ride the waves of change gracefully…at least, I used to be that way. The safety and expectancy routine became my comfort, and I was adamant about straying away from it. I would refuse to take the next step if I didn’t see the next ten steps ahead of me. I was afraid and lacked trust, relying on my own abilities and not on the continuous faithfulness God displayed in my life.

Instead, I did my best to get by with as little risk as possible. I equated success with my worth; therefore, I was extremely fearful of failing. Since I had little-to-no confidence in myself, I avoided uncharted waters. I thought I was setting up a protective fortress for come what may, but in reality I was building a prison. Those walls were named fear, anxiety, loneliness and doubt.

Isaiah 43:2 says, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.” (ESV)

When you walk through difficult seasons, he promises to not only be with you but walk with you to the other side. In order to break down your prison walls and allow the Lord to do only what he can do, you need to get to the point of trusting him because his Word says you can. Instead of relying on the safety of a cowardly no, pray to get to the point of offering up a confident yes with your process.

Prayers to Pray for a Confident Yes

It’s okay to step forward afraid because your shaky yes still says you’re willing to trust God when you can’t trust the process.

Here are three prayers to pray that will lead you down a path to a confident yes when you want to say no:

1. Lord, there’s a lot of pain going on in my life right now. I don’t know what you’re doing and I don’t know what’s next, but I know I need to trust you through this process. Will you help my unbelief and show your faithfulness yet again that you’re with me every step of the way? I know you are good and love me so tenderly, so Lord, would you lavish your love on me today? Thank you! In Jesus’ name, Amen.
   
2. Heavenly Father, I can’t see the next step. I am afraid that what comes next will destroy me. Will you settle my heart today by providing peace and comfort? I am not okay right now, and I need you more than ever to persevere through this next season. Even though it’s hard to trust the next step, I am choosing to trust you with a confident yes. I thank you for your goodness, mercy, faithfulness and love today and every day. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
   
3. God, I am overwhelmed with fear and anxiety over what’s ahead. There is not an ounce of encouragement anywhere, and it feels like the walls are closing in. Will you bring me back to your Word, guiding me down a path of peace and trust? Tend to my heart once again, refreshing my soul like water in a desert. Thank you for your loving-kindness and mercy as you direct me through harsh waters. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
   

Take heart, because when you don’t know what’s next in your process you can trust him because he knows. You can trust that even when it doesn’t feel good and it’s hard to trust the unseen, he is faithful to comfort and bring you out onto the other side.

Wife Step: When you don’t know what to pray to trust God in the process, recite these prayers. Also find a Bible verse that will speak truth over you in this season.

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