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By Kimberly Kralovic

There’s always a chance to find new friendships, even when you find comfort in your old ones. So when’s the last time you went outside your comfort zone to find meaningful friendships?

Connecting the Dots

As an introvert, I tend to enjoy my alone time. However, I’ve always valued my friendships greatly, even when my actions said otherwise. I’ve felt lost, left out, confused and hurt. But the one thing that’s remained the same is the hunger for deep connection. 

While no two friendships in my life are quite the same, neither makes them better than the other. I also realized that everyone is different in their unique ways, and relationships are not always black or white. Seeing through a new lens, free from childhood wounds, I felt happier in my evolving friendships. 

Cultivating new and old friendships seemed appealing, and I wanted more for my life. Proverbs 27:17 ESV says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” A healthy friendship encourages, challenges and strengthens our hearts. 

Cultivating New Friends

Recently, I met with a newer friend at a local coffee shop. At first, I felt nervous, like I was preparing for a first date. But, while I didn’t know what to expect, I was excited to go outside my comfort zone.

Soon, I felt at ease in a familiar place while thoroughly enjoying the conversation. Although about midway through, old doubts and nervous tendencies crept into my head. I asked myself, “Am I talking too much? Am I overly excited?” However, I kept reminding myself to stay calm while being authentically myself. 

Mission accomplished. One hour turned to over two, and the conversation flowed into a new beginning. I felt relieved knowing I could not only take chances but simultaneously felt a sense of belonging. 

The truth was, I needed connection more than I realized. A beautiful morning turned into a life-giving experience that revived my soul. There’s always a chance for growth and finding your people when opportunities occur.

Finding Your People

Sometimes it takes one brave person to reach out first; perhaps that can be you. If you’re feeling scared to take the plunge, pray about it. Also, think of all the times in your life when the pleasantly unexpected brought such joy. 

To have deep, meaningful friendships, reflect on the type of friendship you’d like to have. Then, think about what kind of friend you want to become since friendship is a two-way street. Perhaps finding common ground or ones with similar interests or hobbies is a great place to start. 

Then, let go of all expectations and fears and spark a conversation. Make plans for a coffee or lunch date to visit one another. While we all live busy lives, blocking off time in your calendar from time to time is a must for your mental and physical health. With time, patience, and vulnerability, you’ll find your people, and meaningful friendships will form. 

Wife Step: Check in on a friend this week, as tiny steps can profoundly impact your life and theirs. 

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