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By Joy Lowery

What is your idea of setting the tone for your home? Everyone is different and not one family has the same standards. Let us dive deeper into what it means to set the tone for your home. 

Setting the Tone for Your Home

For me, in my home, I have a standard of “protection.” What I mean by that is, anything that comes in I feel the obligation to protect the sanctity of my home at all costs. 

Having that standard sets the tone for everything else. It allows us to be comfortable with one another, open with one another and recognize when something is not in alignment with what has already been established. 

Once, my mom had to keep my children for two months while I prepared us for another chapter in our lives. Every now and again, my mother would tell me that my four-year-old would not be in agreement with a particular thing because it is not how “Mommy” does it. 

She was very impressed because she got a little insight on the culture of our home through the lenses of my daughter. Now, that was never to say what Granny did was incorrect. The culture of my home was being exercised regardless of the change in environment. 

Essentially, the idea of creating a standard for your home is so that it is carried out beyond your four walls. What you want is for the totality of your teaching to constitute a legacy. A legacy that will later prevent generational curses or break what is already present. Setting the tone for your home goes beyond your four walls. 

Setting the Tone Based on God’s Word

First, you may be wondering how this aligns with a current or potential marriage. Not everyone has children, right? No matter your situation, there is only one true standard for your home. The word is the blueprint for how to live in every area of your life. The standard that God has set for your home is the one true standard there is.

As part of creating and solidifying the culture of your home, there must first be a solid foundation. Matthew 7:24-25 says, “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” (NIV) As stated before, not one home is the same, even still the word of God will never change. It is okay to be different and still carry out God’s standard for your home. 

So, you can have a different way of setting the tone in your home if it aligns with God’s Word. First Corinthians 12:12 says, “Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ.” (NIV) What will set your home apart will be that line that you draw between you and God. Will you allow his will and his way for the culture in your home? 

Setting the Culture of Your Home

Culture is merely made of many people with many different opinions of what life should look like. Whose standard are you living by? 

The Word of God is not a culture; The Word of God is a lifestyle. His Word can and will always stand the test of time, hence why you should build your house on the solid rock. He is that solid rock. Once you have done that, you are ready to create a standard that will last. 

Setting the tone for your home goes beyond the physical home. You are the light of the earth and want that to shine for all to see. Whichever side you choose is what will show up in your home. 

Wife Step: Evaluate the tone of your home and how you may need to change it.

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