10 Tips to Find Balance as a Working Mom
If you are a mom who works outside the home, you’ve got a LOT on your plate.
You have a full load of work responsibilities that occupy a large portion of your time, energy and thoughts. When your outside-of-the-home work is over, another load of work starts at home.
Working outside the home can be exhausting, guilt-producing, and just plain difficult.
But I know you want the best for your family if you are a working mom, just like stay-at-home moms do too.
Of my 16 years as a mom, I spent 4.5 of them working as a high school secretary. There were perks to that life, including a steady paycheck, visiting with coworker friends every day, and a highly structured schedule. However, the loads I carried were uniquely heavy.
There is one thing I know to be true for us women who work outside the home. It’s that you feel pulled in different directions, and there’s a shared tension of being grateful, yet also wishing you could have it all. As working women with families, the reality is we are spinning many plates and constantly assessing which plates are doing okay, which need more attention, and how to keep each of them from dropping.
Though your load may feel heavy, I know God has encouragement for you today.
Here are 10 tips to find encouragement as a working wife.
1. Give yourself grace.
Perhaps you struggle with mom guilt because you have to spend time away from your children. But friend, when you work and build the Kingdom where your two feet are, using your gifts and paying the bills, there is great honor in your time away from home.
2. Start your days with God.
Your day is lighter and brighter when you start it with God. Don’t believe me? I challenge you to get up before everyone else to read your Bible and pray for 10 minutes. This rhythm sets a peaceful tone for your entire day, both at work and at home. Don’t have a Bible? Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will send you one.
3. Pray on your morning commute.
You probably have at least a few precious moments alone on your way to work. Dedicate your workday to God, pouring out all the details. This will help you see God working throughout your day.
4. Meditate on your lunch break.
It only takes a few minutes to meditate on God’s Word. Write a verse down during your morning quiet time to meditate on it during lunch. Ask yourself what the verse tells you about God, and what it says about how to live your life. This habit will center you on God’s will.
5. Pray again on your afternoon or evening commute.
I understand the need to unwind with your favorite song or a podcast…that’s fine. But take a minute or two to pray over the plans for your evening. Ask God to give you strength, energy, and joy to share with your family.
6. Take a few minutes to recharge.
You will have more self-control over your words and actions if you refuel yourself before running to sports practices, meetings, church, etc. Set a timer for a 10-minute chill session, when each person does their own thing without interrupting each other. Use it to do whatever makes you happy, like reading a magazine, closing your eyes and breathing deeply, or scrolling social media. Just make sure it’s uplifting and recharging.
7. Cook in batches to simplify weekday meals.
I found that if I batch-cooked the protein, then froze it, I could get dinner on the table in half the time. On the weekends, brown ground beef with onions, grill or poach chicken breasts, and roast veggies and meat. Package portions in individual containers, then set them in the refrigerator in the morning to slowly thaw. They’ll be ready for many quick, healthy meals during the week.
8. Spend intentional, quality time with each child.
Young children love hearing you read books aloud, getting tickled and watching finger plays. Older children enjoy creative conversation starters, board games and family-appropriate television shows. Don’t beat yourself up if just a few minutes is all you have to give – this present, intentional time goes a long way. Be consistent in giving quality time every day, and your children will feel loved.
9. Reserve 30 minutes to connect with your husband each day.
I know it’s tough not to put your marriage last on your list of priorities. But if you nurture your relationship with your husband a little each day, you’ll both be happier. Don’t do two separate things side by side. Put the phones down and do something together, like playing a game, snuggling, or talking about your day.
10. Observe the Sabbath.
It’s tempting to spend the whole weekend cleaning the house, running errands, and attending activities. But God established the Sabbath for our overall well-being. When I was working outside the home, Saturdays were for shopping, cleaning and organizing. But Sundays were for worship, rest, and family time. If you are intentional about taking a break to honor the Sabbath, God will multiply your time during the rest of the week.
Balance is difficult to achieve as a working mom, but it’s not outside your grasp. Put God first every day, and he’ll help you live with intention and greater peace.
Wife Step: Pick one step above to put into action this week.
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Sarah Geringer is a speaker, artist and author of Transforming Your Thought Life: Christian Meditation in Focus and three self-published books. She is on the devotional writing teams for Encouragement for Today, A Wife Like Me, Devotable, Hope-Full Living and Woman 2 Woman Ministries. When she’s not reading over 100 books per year, Sarah enjoys painting, baking, gardening and playing the flute. Her daily must-haves are hot tea, dark chocolate, and fresh flowers. She lives in her beloved home state of Missouri with her husband and three children. Sarah writes about finding peace in God’s Word at sarahgeringer.com.